The concept of affective disengagement is introduced as a way to understand brotherhood across personal and social spheres. The chapter follows Margaret Wetherell in seeking out affective practices, or established ways of managing affects. Affective disengagement is one such practice, where individuals stay loyal to a community by keeping their affective distance. Through that distance, they can sustain their loyalty and act on it. The chapter argues that this practice is gendered as male and that it is used in many communities, from the level of families to the level of nations. Through analysis of one Russian and one Danish movie about brothers (Brat (Balabanov 1997) and Brødre (Bier 2004)), as well as interviews with individual men (seven Swedish students), the multi-sited character of brotherhood as affective disengagement is shown.